Well let me tell you one thing, it is impossible to keep all databases of
all these agencies clean from scammers. No matter what checks any agency
is doing, there is always a chance that one or two of them can slip
through these checks. This has nothing to do with the quality of an
agency, but the simple fact is that no one can look into somebody's mind!
But the good news is, that most of the times it is very simple to detect
if someone turns out to be scam. In the beginning it is not necessary to
use private detectives or background check services to find out if she is
honest or not, it's much cheaper, just use your common sense and always
keep both feet on the ground!
This sounds evident to you of course, but you must know how many men
already has fallen in the number one, two and three pitfalls (read the
rules #1, #2 and #3 at the top).
I will give you an example:
You have placed your ad at some dating agency, one day you receive a
letter from a real knockout and she expresses in her first letter that she
is very interested in you. You are at least surprised and and ask
yourself why such a knockout is interested in you. You answer this beauty
and after some emails she even starts to use sweet words, like "My dear
[name]" and "I miss you" or even at the end of her letter "kisses". She
will not use words like "I love you" but chooses very careful but subtle
the right words to impress you. She also like to talk about "honesty" and
"openness" and she tries to convince you that she despise dishonesty in
general. Of course you agree with her and you only can think about her
real good looking photo's and you think you have won the lottery with a
girl like her. Finally after all those years of being single, someone from
a far country is really interested in you and above all, she is really
beautiful too, almost to good to be true.
Then after some time she starts to write something like this:
..........I always think about our meeting. By the way I know a local
travel agency , that can organize the trip to your country very quickly.
They make visa, foreign passport, buy the tickets and even find a hotel
where you can stay there. I think it will be a good idea to use the
service of this agency. What do you think about it?."..............
Again you get excited and you are thinking how your friends will react
when you can 'show' her after she arrives in your country. They all will
be jealous, that an average looking guy like you has conquered the heart
of such a beauty, don't you think?
But then she tells you that she probably hasn't money enough, but will try
to get this money form her family or relatives. She will tell you that she
probably can get the saving money from her grandmother and perhaps from
her mother too, but not everything, because her mother also needs to keep
money for her medicines. Of course she hopes that you (as a real
gentleman) will offer her to help her financially, most of the times
'they' will not ask your directly for money, they first try some hints, but if they see that you
don't react, then they will finally ask you to help them, just for those
last $300 dollars they need to get their 'magic' visa.
This scene is one of the most popular used scenes for scam. Of course
there are many variations. But the main purpose is, that they first let
you believe that some knockout has fallen in love with you, and while your
head is somewhere floating in the clouds, it's easy for them to strike.
From the moment she wrote you that she wants to visit you, you have lost
your common sense (although you really believe that this girl is really
honest and serious) and will do anything she will ask you.
Of course, while reading this example now, you will say, this will never
happen to me. But believe me, you really must know how many letters my
wife (she operates a
Russian Women
Information site) has received from men who were caught in the same
trap!
So, please keep the first 3 rules always in your mind, if any of these
rules will be recognized by you, then be very cautious and suspicious,
before you will become a next scam victim!
But remember at least one thing, if you never
send money to a person you never have met before in your life, then nobody
will scam you, because a scammer only wants one thing, and that is your
money!
When to be cautious or even suspicious:
(these
are some -but not all- possible signs of a person who is trying
to scam you)
-
The person is contacting you (most of the scammers look
for their 'victim' on (free) post-your-profile websites
where men and women freely can post their ad).
-
The person starts to use 'popular language' to impress
you.
-
The person falls in love with you (very quick and
sometimes even within 2, 3 weeks) or uses very sweet words
in her letters to impress you.
-
The person wants to visit you (which is NOT possible for
at least US & Canada).
-
The person lost her job, her mother or child
need medical help, or any other reason that she needs money.
-
The person uses an Internet café and needs money
(sometimes the 'manager' of a Internet café is even
contacting you to help her).
-
The person has no postal address or phone number to
reach her (asking for personal information that you can
check on her are not very welcome to ask and she will
try to avoid these questions, or tell you that this is not important
for you to know).
-
The person will be offended or feels insulted when
asking personal questions that can lead to her real
identification.
-
The person avoids the subject to meet her in her country
or tells you that she can better visit you.
-
The person needs more money for her visa to visit you
because her own savings are not enough and a friendly local
travel office can help her with that. (Single Russian women
NEVER can get a visa without your personal involvement and
NEVER can get a visa to travel to (for example) the US as a
tourist. Magic visa's are not existing!)
I use on purpose the words 'the
person', because these 'scammers' can be women OR/AND men who are using stolen photo's from
professional models or photo's and profiles
from real agencies.
When is an agency called as a scam?
There are many forums on the web
that are related to the subject "dating scam". Men who are in the
process in seeking a Russian woman often visit these forums to
learn from others or to find out if a certain agency is a scam.
Unfortunately there is a general misunderstanding or
misinterpretation that if accidentally one or two female members
of a certain agency turn out to be a scam, that the agency
involved is a scam too. I already have explained that many
agencies are using different methods to make it hard for potential
scammers to signup themselves as a female member, but even if a
certain female member passes these check, then still nobody can
read her mind and can know her real intentions. There are even
women who become a scammer 'after' they have signed up, because
they discover how easy it is to manipulate certain naive men
and because of that they give it a try.
I don't want to insult any man, but referring to these many scam
mails I have read from my wife's visitors, some men make it very
easy for these scammers. And when these men find out they have
been scammed, they run to almost every anti scam forum and tell
all the forum members what a big scam that agency is. My advise
would be, report at once the scammer (including the copy of the
scam mails) at the agency, then report the scam at once to the
local official authorities, because only then people can do
something about this.
Of course there are also some doubtful agencies who let you pay
for email communication and try to keep you as a paid customer as long
as possible. For me this is also a kind of a scam, therefore I
always suggest not to use any agency that force you to pay for email
communication. But also in this example it is your choice to pay
for it or not. But why should you pay
for communication at one agency while you can get a full address,
personal email address and phone number from another agency for a couple of
dollars?
Just think about this.
Another increasing phenomenon about agency scam is that owners of
existing online agencies, post fake scam reports at many forums,
using different email addresses, so it looks that they are
different persons (these persons can't be verified).
They use this website to copy and publish scam topics from un-moderated forums
and of course they only publish reports from their competitors.
This is a new phenomenon in the scam scene and in general people believe anything
what is written and nobody will verify if a scam topic is based on
facts. But they can do harm to real honest dating agencies and
there is nothing these real honest agencies can do about this, because they
use copies of forum posts, which are unidentified and unverified.
You can read more about this at:
http://www.agencyscams.com
So what you can you do to prevent yourself
from being scammed?
Read the Anti Scam Guide
If you can afford to spend a few months trying to solve the enigma of
sincerity of your relationship, if you can afford to go to Russia to just find
out that the person you were corresponding with is not what she said she was,
if you enjoy high risk ventures and mountain climbing without a harness -
well, then you probably don't need this Guide
But if ...
...You are thinking
about finding a Russian wife......You are going to send
money to somebody you met on the Internet......You prefer to learn
from somebody else's mistakes rather than making them yourself...
Then I think it would be beneficial for
you to read this Guide - not to be sorry later. (Every week I
receive letters from men who say they would not make such expensive mistakes
if they had read the Guide beforehand.)
Click
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